“The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of a heaven
“If we study only what is average, we will remain average”
“Youi can eliminate depression without making someone happy. You can cure anxiety without teaching someone optimism . You can return someone to work without improving their performance. If we strive for a diminished bad, you’ll attain the average and you’ll miss out entirely on the opportunity to exceed average
Brilliant p[people sometimes do the most unintelligent things – ie overwork or work on the wrong things.
Negative stress is like second hand smoke. It’s unspoken. The second you enter a room with it, you know.
Neuroplasticity – It’s been shown that our brains aren’t static. We change.
Just through thinking, you can literally rewire the brain – ie cause physical change. This says a lot.
Pleasure, engagement, meaning. All very core to happiness. Very akin to autonomy, mastery, purpose
Happiness = joy we get for striving for our potential
Negative emotions narrow our thoughts.
Meditate. Spend money – but not on stuff
Fitness is key to happiness
Happiness isn’t about lying to ourselves and being ignorant. But changing our brains to think that we can rise up over circumstances
World is inherently subjective. You can shape so much
Your experience literally changes the result. Same experience with 2 people can = a2 different results
“Creation” of happiness. Not “pursuit.” We need to create it. It’s not something we hunt down. Its already in us.
Tetris effect. Once you get a negative mindset, that is all you see. You’re locked in.
Need gratitude. Add 3 positives to a daily log
Rose colored glasses are good … within limits
It’s not just about getting up off the mat. It’s about understanding why you were on the mat in the first place and then bouncing back up.
Things don’t always happen for the best. But you can make the best out of things that happen
Pessimism = giving up. Seeing a dead end and no way out. It happens
Sometimes people not only think they could do better (which is often a good growth mindset) but they don’t acknowledge the good they’ve done
A person gets too emotional their logic is hacked and they literally can’t reason
Fight until it is a habit. Until it’s done without thinking about it. It takes 21 days
Will power alone will not get you there. Willpower is finite
Follow the path of least resistance. Make it easy. Put the guitar in the middle of the room. Not stored in a case in the closet
Friends. The number one indicator of happiness. To get them to really like you, it’s all the Dale Carnegy stuff. Show genuine interest. Be present
Happiness is contagious. Just as the opposite is true